Can I Be a Good Friend – follow up


It’s been over a year since I wrote Can I Be a Good Friend and I thought the timing was perfect for a follow-up.  I’ve struggled with relationships with women for a long time and really never cared for them.  I couldn’t stand their bickering, back stabbing and competitive ways.  I found that on the few occasions when I did allow someone to come into my life that it always ended bad.

When I wrote the last blog I was seeing my Christian mentor and she taught me some really great things about myself, but I must admit that it has been scary to put my skills into action.  I knew last year the  most important relationship to mend was with my sister.  I am so happy to tell you that we are finally in the habit of one another.  We spend time with each other laughing and enjoying each others company.  I have even taught her how to crochet and look what she can do!

Kandi's Hat

I love my sister and I am grateful that God has brought our relationship together because without him we would probably still be very distant from one another.  God is building my faith that I can definitely be a good friend.  Here’s my beautiful sister.

Kandi

Last week I attended the New England Women’s Convention at International Family Church in Boston, Massachusetts.  There were 7 other women that attended this conference with me and spending 4 days and 3 nights with 7 women terrified me! I had never been on any type of trip like this before and was anxious about how all the personalities would intertwine.  I am proud to tell you that no blood was shed, everyone was patient and no one walked away with hurt feelings.  I truly believe it is because our common goal of being together was worshiping the Lord and learning how to gain strength from one another.

On our last night while we were eating dinner, each one shared their “take-a-way” from the trip.  I admitted my hesitations and that I felt truly blessed being surrounded by strong women that love God with such passion.  As I sat there and listened to the other women speak, it was then that I realized they all felt the same way to a certain degree.  I wasn’t alone and together we accomplished our goal.

I now know that I can truly be a good friend and that I am a caring and loving woman and have much to offer to the women in my life.  I cherish and value their friendship and can see our group being friends till we are old and gray.  I’ve wanted friends in my life for a long time and had no idea just how badly I needed them.

Here is a picture of the women that attended the conference starting from right to left:

Front Row:  Vicki Noordermeer, Rachel Wicks, me, Taylor Kerby, and Susanne Noordermeer

Back Row:  Carolyn Correia, Heather Worley, Lisa Bevere (guest speaker) and Allison Spratlin

Boston Group

By the way, for those of you who have never heard of Lisa Bevere, look her up!  What a mighty and strong woman of God and the messages that God has given to her are so powerful!  Check her calendar and if she comes anywhere near you, please go see her.  You will walk away fully charge and ready to become the woman God has created you to be.

The path I have laid before me has laughter, joy, peace and love because I realize that I’m not alone on this journey.  What is the success of these new friendships and me being a good friend?  Jesus, plain and simple.

 

Kathy

 

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A New Path


I can hardly believe this is my last semester at Auburn University.  It has been such a wonderful experience to surround myself with such inspirational professors and fellow students.  The College of Business has an outstanding program and feel that I have gained a tremendous amount of knowledge.  It has been a dream in the making and definitely an accomplishment.

So what am I going to do after graduation?  Well, I’ve pondered on that very question.  A few months back I posted some pictures of my crochet projects that I wanted to share with everyone.  I decided in December to try to start selling my crochet and had no idea that I would get the type of response that I did!  It has been totally unbelievable!  Keeping the balance between family life, school life and crochet life has been tricky, but I have to say, I am having a fantastic time.

Although I have crocheted for over 30 years, most of the time I made something from another person’s pattern or some crochet book I bought at the local craft store.  I never really tried to make my own creations until recently.  I started out by selling hats and scarves mainly but then one night a relative asked me if I would make her some boot cuffs.  I had no idea was a boot cuff even looked like. I searched a few places like Ravelry and google images to get a visual so I could understand what she was talking about, but I didn’t get started that night.

All night I kept thinking about those cuffs and had a certain stitch in my mind that I thought would be perfect.  The next morning I got up and started creating my very own pattern and came out with something that actually worked!  My relative loved them and it has opened the flood gates.  A local salon and boutique placed an order and I can’t recall how many I have made for people, but I have certainly been blessed!

Cross Stitch Boot Cuff

The orders aren’t the only thing that has opened up like a flood gate though.  I can’t stop creating!  I have ignited a part of my brain that must have always been there but just dormant.  Can anyone relate to what I am saying?  It has amazed me how the creativity is overflowing.  I’m not one of those people who sit down and write everything out and make graphs or even draw pictures out.  I sit down with the yarn and just see where I end up.  It’s amazing!  I made this belt and matching purse yesterday.

Crochet Purse Crochet Belt

I don’t know the direction that I’m going  or where this new adventure will take me, but I am definitely loving the ride and will pursue it with a passion!

Kathy

Bring Your Bowl Cause the Chili is Ready!


Emory and I have found our new favorite pass time.  Many changes have been going on in the Lashley household and we needed to find a new peaceful direction.  Well here it is!

We bought one of the dutch ovens a year ago and maybe used it once or twice.  You know what I’m talking about.  You go to the sporting goods store walking down the aisles and see something so very cool.  You talk yourself into it and there ya go.  It sits remaining in its original container for eternity.

I am proud to say that we have finally put our oven to its intended use.  About two or three nights a week Emory and I will go down by the pond to our special spot and he will build a fire so that we can cook our dinner.  We have our little portable radio playing softly and I’m usually crocheting and he just sits there watching the fire.  The crickets and frogs are having their own conversations and even my owl friend will talk sometimes.  The serenity of my country life is unbelievable and truly a blessing to my soul.

We have a variety of foods we cook, but my favorite is probably when he prepares his deer chili.  I am telling you, there is something about that black kettle pot that brings forth such a rich and  powerful flavor to each and every ingredient. Those cowboys back in the day sure knew what they were doing!

As you can see by the picture, we have acquired another pot.  Why?  Our church has small group meetings at individual’s homes and Emory and I attend one of the groups every Tuesday night.  Upon our introductions the first night, we had to tell something about ourselves.  My husband is not a man of many words (at least not to everyone else) and expressed his favorite time of the day was sundown so that he could go down by the fire and cook dinner.  The group went crazy and it was on!  Everyone came to our house this past Tuesday and enjoyed the infamous chili!  We had a few of the guys bring their guitars and played while everyone ate and sat by the fire.  We had such a great time that most of them came back last night for my infamous lasagna and of course the ambiance of the cool night air with the warm toasty fire.

I’m not sure it has to be cooking by a fire with friends to make that kind of difference in a person’s life.  It is simply enjoying life the way God intended.  He wants us to let go of the big stuff and just soak up today.  So, no matter what it is, create some memories that can make you smile.

Kathy

Quit Second Guessing Yourself


People always seem to be full of so many regrets for the decisions they have made in the past.  Why did I do that?  What was I thinking?  Sure, some of those questions may be justified, but have you ever thought that maybe at the time you made that decision it was the right one?  Why is it only afterwards we decide it’s bad?  Is it because the outcome wasn’t what we wanted?

You can waste so much of your time and energy living in regret.  I know because I’ve done it before and it kept me feeling guilty all the time.  I now choose to live differently but it certainly took a concentrated effort on my part to make the change.  Fortunately, I finally have the right people in my life to help me through this transition.

Do I now make the right decisions all the time.  Maybe, maybe not but what I do know is that I don’t spend countless hours trying to decide whether I should have done something differently.  I finally accept the fact that at the time of making a significant choice it seemed like the right thing to do and let it go at that.

Enjoy your life to the fullest and if you can learn from your choices in life and not dwell on it and move on, well, you’ve accomplished something.  But here’s the thing……there is no crystal ball so don’t beat yourself up!  Life is a journey and we all need to live A Life of Freedom!

~Kathy

Photo Credit:  Google Images

Five Friday Night Fast and Fun Facts!


Fact Number 1:  I have 5 more class days and I will be finished with this 5 week semester which normally is a 16 week semester that’s been crammed into 5 weeks.

Fact Number 2:  The next 5 week semester will begin the following Monday!…….Pray for me because I’ll be taking business analytics which is a fancy name for statistics.  (Did I mention I STINK at math?  I still cross out ten to make it a nine and carry my whatever.

Fact Number 3:  I have crocheted 6 hats this week!

Fact Number 4:  Tomorrow I’ll wake up early and get my house neat and clean and head towards the lake to ride in the boat all day long with my good-looking husband.  We’ll be soaking up the wonderful sunshine that God beam’s out of our big blue sky here in Alabama.

Fact Number 5:  If you’re reading this that means you are my blogging friend, so I’d like to say a big ole’ southern hey!  I’m glad you came to see me!  Stop in and hang out a while.  Leave me a comment telling me how great you are and what’s the best thing about you.  I’d love to hear it and share your fact with all my other friends.

~Kathy

 

Photo Credit:  Google Images

Energized Saturday!


I woke up this morning with so much energy!  I knew I had a speaking event at True Deliverance Church today and so I began my day totally ready!  I cranked up Rhapsody on the computer and started with Kelly Clarkson’s new song, “What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger”.  I’m bouncing around the house trying to straighten it to a manageable clean before I leave, and in no time I was done!  I then quickly got myself ready and headed toward the church!

To say the least, I arrive with the music exploding from the sanctuary.  Great!  Not only do I have it playing in my home and car, I can have it at church too! It didn’t take much persuasion by my friend to get me in there.  As I entered the sanctuary, my eyes saw beautiful children praising the Lord and my ears heard inspiring music.  Sometimes I am just able to get lost in the sounds of great music.  My heart began to pound and my mind just wiped clean any other thoughts that I had prior to entering into the sanctuary.  Exactly what I needed since I was about to talk to these girls.  My mind was now ready!  But wait!  What could be more exciting than to have several of the girls coming up to me and greeting me with smiles and hugs!  I have spoken to several of them before and it was great to see them again.  My adrenaline began flowing like a river.

As the teaching began, I asked my girls that had listened to me before, “What is the one thing I want everyone to take away from my talks?”  Needless to say, I was pleasantly surprised to hear them hit the nail on the head by saying, “Making plans and goals for my life!”  Let me say, I am all about empowering women to become better women!  I believe education is the best way to give such empowerment, but not all education comes from a formal classroom.  We (society), must teach our children about relationships, goals, and the like.  Hopefully I was able to provide just a small piece of that today.

My prayer would be that if just one thing could be taken away from my talk today it would be to believe in yourself.

Kathy