Can I Be a Good Friend – follow up


It’s been over a year since I wrote Can I Be a Good Friend and I thought the timing was perfect for a follow-up.  I’ve struggled with relationships with women for a long time and really never cared for them.  I couldn’t stand their bickering, back stabbing and competitive ways.  I found that on the few occasions when I did allow someone to come into my life that it always ended bad.

When I wrote the last blog I was seeing my Christian mentor and she taught me some really great things about myself, but I must admit that it has been scary to put my skills into action.  I knew last year the  most important relationship to mend was with my sister.  I am so happy to tell you that we are finally in the habit of one another.  We spend time with each other laughing and enjoying each others company.  I have even taught her how to crochet and look what she can do!

Kandi's Hat

I love my sister and I am grateful that God has brought our relationship together because without him we would probably still be very distant from one another.  God is building my faith that I can definitely be a good friend.  Here’s my beautiful sister.

Kandi

Last week I attended the New England Women’s Convention at International Family Church in Boston, Massachusetts.  There were 7 other women that attended this conference with me and spending 4 days and 3 nights with 7 women terrified me! I had never been on any type of trip like this before and was anxious about how all the personalities would intertwine.  I am proud to tell you that no blood was shed, everyone was patient and no one walked away with hurt feelings.  I truly believe it is because our common goal of being together was worshiping the Lord and learning how to gain strength from one another.

On our last night while we were eating dinner, each one shared their “take-a-way” from the trip.  I admitted my hesitations and that I felt truly blessed being surrounded by strong women that love God with such passion.  As I sat there and listened to the other women speak, it was then that I realized they all felt the same way to a certain degree.  I wasn’t alone and together we accomplished our goal.

I now know that I can truly be a good friend and that I am a caring and loving woman and have much to offer to the women in my life.  I cherish and value their friendship and can see our group being friends till we are old and gray.  I’ve wanted friends in my life for a long time and had no idea just how badly I needed them.

Here is a picture of the women that attended the conference starting from right to left:

Front Row:  Vicki Noordermeer, Rachel Wicks, me, Taylor Kerby, and Susanne Noordermeer

Back Row:  Carolyn Correia, Heather Worley, Lisa Bevere (guest speaker) and Allison Spratlin

Boston Group

By the way, for those of you who have never heard of Lisa Bevere, look her up!  What a mighty and strong woman of God and the messages that God has given to her are so powerful!  Check her calendar and if she comes anywhere near you, please go see her.  You will walk away fully charge and ready to become the woman God has created you to be.

The path I have laid before me has laughter, joy, peace and love because I realize that I’m not alone on this journey.  What is the success of these new friendships and me being a good friend?  Jesus, plain and simple.

 

Kathy

 

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My 3rd Anniversary Interview


Emory and I celebrated our 3rd anniversary today!  This past Sunday after church we left for Cheaha Mountain State Park.  It is the highest point in Alabama sitting 2407 feet above sea level.  The scenery was breath taking with evidence of Fall all around us.  The rain came in on Monday so we spent a lot of our time just riding around soaking it all in.  On our ride I was playing around with my camera and decided to record Emory.  It ended up only lasting 4 minutes but this is a small snippet of my life with him.  If you are curious and want to have a small giggle here it is.  My 3rd Anniversary Interview.

Here are also some of the pictures I took during our trip and why I love Alabama.

 

Bring Your Bowl Cause the Chili is Ready!


Emory and I have found our new favorite pass time.  Many changes have been going on in the Lashley household and we needed to find a new peaceful direction.  Well here it is!

We bought one of the dutch ovens a year ago and maybe used it once or twice.  You know what I’m talking about.  You go to the sporting goods store walking down the aisles and see something so very cool.  You talk yourself into it and there ya go.  It sits remaining in its original container for eternity.

I am proud to say that we have finally put our oven to its intended use.  About two or three nights a week Emory and I will go down by the pond to our special spot and he will build a fire so that we can cook our dinner.  We have our little portable radio playing softly and I’m usually crocheting and he just sits there watching the fire.  The crickets and frogs are having their own conversations and even my owl friend will talk sometimes.  The serenity of my country life is unbelievable and truly a blessing to my soul.

We have a variety of foods we cook, but my favorite is probably when he prepares his deer chili.  I am telling you, there is something about that black kettle pot that brings forth such a rich and  powerful flavor to each and every ingredient. Those cowboys back in the day sure knew what they were doing!

As you can see by the picture, we have acquired another pot.  Why?  Our church has small group meetings at individual’s homes and Emory and I attend one of the groups every Tuesday night.  Upon our introductions the first night, we had to tell something about ourselves.  My husband is not a man of many words (at least not to everyone else) and expressed his favorite time of the day was sundown so that he could go down by the fire and cook dinner.  The group went crazy and it was on!  Everyone came to our house this past Tuesday and enjoyed the infamous chili!  We had a few of the guys bring their guitars and played while everyone ate and sat by the fire.  We had such a great time that most of them came back last night for my infamous lasagna and of course the ambiance of the cool night air with the warm toasty fire.

I’m not sure it has to be cooking by a fire with friends to make that kind of difference in a person’s life.  It is simply enjoying life the way God intended.  He wants us to let go of the big stuff and just soak up today.  So, no matter what it is, create some memories that can make you smile.

Kathy

Just a Small View of Me


It was in the 7th grade when Mrs. Watts taught me to crochet.  It’s hard to imagine that was 30 years ago this year!  I can remember when I would be crocheting, people would say, “That’s what an old woman does for a hobby”.  Well, I didn’t care then and I certainly don’t now.  I can easily spend an enormous amount of time lost in the making of a hat, scarf or blanket.  All of my thoughts just seem to focus on what I am doing and not the craziness of life.  Guess that’s why I’ve crocheted a lot lately!

I just wanted to share a little piece of myself in one of my favorite pass times!

Kathy

Just Call Me the Owl Whisperer


Hi to all my friends!  It’s been a few months and I’ve missed you all!  My family must come first and I’m sure you understand.  But here I am and ready to tell you a story.

My owl calling platform!

I can remember the first time that I came to what is now my home.  I walked out to the back porch I saw a beautiful green yard and pond.  Although this was our first official date, I knew it would be my home.  Living with Emory has been an adventure, and I never know what is coming around the corner.  He has taught me many things in such a short period which makes for great stories.

A couple of years ago I went turkey hunting with Emory and for those of you that don’t know, you get up extremely early!  So we’re walking in the dark woods and I’m quietly following behind him when he stops.  All of a sudden he lets out this loud noise.  I whispered, “What was that?”  He told me that he was calling an owl and shushed me.  A few seconds later I could hear the owl responding.  Also for those of you who don’t know, a turkey hates an owl and will gobble at the owl to let him know that it’s his territory.  This does nothing more than simply allow Emory to find the turkey.

Since then I have listened to him have lengthy conversations with the owls in our back yard just for fun.  I think it is the coolest thing that he can sound like them and they actually talk back.  So…….the other day I got home from work and decided to go down to the pond and just sit on the dock.  I’m soaking in the beautiful evening and watching the sun as it begins to set when I hear an owl hoot.  I wished Emory had been there to talk with him and then it hit me.  Although I knew no one was at home but me, I looked around and then let it out!  Guess what?  The owl hooted right back at me!  I just about fell off the dock laughing at myself! It was incredible! I did it again and again and always got a response.  I know this went on for 10 minutes or so and while that may not seem like long, it felt like an hour.

God created so many wonderful creatures in this world and sure we talk to our dogs, cats, birds, etc. but to have this experience with the owl was amazing and one I won’t forget.  It was down right fun!

When Emory got home that night, I told him of my little adventure.  He asked me to repeat the sound, but I wouldn’t do it and hid my face in the pillow laughing.  The next morning I woke up and was totally blackmailed.  He always brings me a diet coke before I get out of bed, but this particular morning there was a price to pay.  He wanted to hear my hoot.  I could barely get it out for laughing and when I did, Emory began hysterically laughing at me!  What a person will do for their fix right?

Anyway, just a little fun humor to lighten your possibly heavy day.  I pray everyone has a blessed week!

Kathy

Quit Second Guessing Yourself


People always seem to be full of so many regrets for the decisions they have made in the past.  Why did I do that?  What was I thinking?  Sure, some of those questions may be justified, but have you ever thought that maybe at the time you made that decision it was the right one?  Why is it only afterwards we decide it’s bad?  Is it because the outcome wasn’t what we wanted?

You can waste so much of your time and energy living in regret.  I know because I’ve done it before and it kept me feeling guilty all the time.  I now choose to live differently but it certainly took a concentrated effort on my part to make the change.  Fortunately, I finally have the right people in my life to help me through this transition.

Do I now make the right decisions all the time.  Maybe, maybe not but what I do know is that I don’t spend countless hours trying to decide whether I should have done something differently.  I finally accept the fact that at the time of making a significant choice it seemed like the right thing to do and let it go at that.

Enjoy your life to the fullest and if you can learn from your choices in life and not dwell on it and move on, well, you’ve accomplished something.  But here’s the thing……there is no crystal ball so don’t beat yourself up!  Life is a journey and we all need to live A Life of Freedom!

~Kathy

Photo Credit:  Google Images

Five Friday Night Fast and Fun Facts!


Fact Number 1:  I have 5 more class days and I will be finished with this 5 week semester which normally is a 16 week semester that’s been crammed into 5 weeks.

Fact Number 2:  The next 5 week semester will begin the following Monday!…….Pray for me because I’ll be taking business analytics which is a fancy name for statistics.  (Did I mention I STINK at math?  I still cross out ten to make it a nine and carry my whatever.

Fact Number 3:  I have crocheted 6 hats this week!

Fact Number 4:  Tomorrow I’ll wake up early and get my house neat and clean and head towards the lake to ride in the boat all day long with my good-looking husband.  We’ll be soaking up the wonderful sunshine that God beam’s out of our big blue sky here in Alabama.

Fact Number 5:  If you’re reading this that means you are my blogging friend, so I’d like to say a big ole’ southern hey!  I’m glad you came to see me!  Stop in and hang out a while.  Leave me a comment telling me how great you are and what’s the best thing about you.  I’d love to hear it and share your fact with all my other friends.

~Kathy

 

Photo Credit:  Google Images