No Longer in the Dark


I woke this morning quickly remembering that today was Valentine’s Day. Of course I gave Emory and big hug and kiss probably like every woman did on this “love” day to their special someone. I love holidays and always have, but I must admit that since being married to Emory the last 3 years, my perspective on things have totally changed.

I was married before Emory, (18 years) to a person that only thought they knew me. I probably did seem materialistic at times as I was typically given jewelry, flowers, etc on days like today. We did the typical ritual of going out to eat like what’s expected, but I always felt empty.

Now, my holidays look and feel so much different. We didn’t go out to eat tonight because Emory is at work protecting you, me and everyone else from “bad people”. We didn’t exchange cards or gifts either. We spent the morning together and just enjoyed our time.

I don’t need all that stuff anymore. I have love and it is totally enough. Emory has shown me the true meaning of love and I think it’s great that he doesn’t need to act extra nice or sweet because it is Valentine’s Day. Emory treats me special every single day. I am no longer in the dark because I am truly loved.

My prayer is that every person at some point in their life will be able to feel the unconditional love that I have been able to experience. I think it could change the world.

Kathy

My 3rd Anniversary Interview


Emory and I celebrated our 3rd anniversary today!  This past Sunday after church we left for Cheaha Mountain State Park.  It is the highest point in Alabama sitting 2407 feet above sea level.  The scenery was breath taking with evidence of Fall all around us.  The rain came in on Monday so we spent a lot of our time just riding around soaking it all in.  On our ride I was playing around with my camera and decided to record Emory.  It ended up only lasting 4 minutes but this is a small snippet of my life with him.  If you are curious and want to have a small giggle here it is.  My 3rd Anniversary Interview.

Here are also some of the pictures I took during our trip and why I love Alabama.

 

Just Call Me the Owl Whisperer


Hi to all my friends!  It’s been a few months and I’ve missed you all!  My family must come first and I’m sure you understand.  But here I am and ready to tell you a story.

My owl calling platform!

I can remember the first time that I came to what is now my home.  I walked out to the back porch I saw a beautiful green yard and pond.  Although this was our first official date, I knew it would be my home.  Living with Emory has been an adventure, and I never know what is coming around the corner.  He has taught me many things in such a short period which makes for great stories.

A couple of years ago I went turkey hunting with Emory and for those of you that don’t know, you get up extremely early!  So we’re walking in the dark woods and I’m quietly following behind him when he stops.  All of a sudden he lets out this loud noise.  I whispered, “What was that?”  He told me that he was calling an owl and shushed me.  A few seconds later I could hear the owl responding.  Also for those of you who don’t know, a turkey hates an owl and will gobble at the owl to let him know that it’s his territory.  This does nothing more than simply allow Emory to find the turkey.

Since then I have listened to him have lengthy conversations with the owls in our back yard just for fun.  I think it is the coolest thing that he can sound like them and they actually talk back.  So…….the other day I got home from work and decided to go down to the pond and just sit on the dock.  I’m soaking in the beautiful evening and watching the sun as it begins to set when I hear an owl hoot.  I wished Emory had been there to talk with him and then it hit me.  Although I knew no one was at home but me, I looked around and then let it out!  Guess what?  The owl hooted right back at me!  I just about fell off the dock laughing at myself! It was incredible! I did it again and again and always got a response.  I know this went on for 10 minutes or so and while that may not seem like long, it felt like an hour.

God created so many wonderful creatures in this world and sure we talk to our dogs, cats, birds, etc. but to have this experience with the owl was amazing and one I won’t forget.  It was down right fun!

When Emory got home that night, I told him of my little adventure.  He asked me to repeat the sound, but I wouldn’t do it and hid my face in the pillow laughing.  The next morning I woke up and was totally blackmailed.  He always brings me a diet coke before I get out of bed, but this particular morning there was a price to pay.  He wanted to hear my hoot.  I could barely get it out for laughing and when I did, Emory began hysterically laughing at me!  What a person will do for their fix right?

Anyway, just a little fun humor to lighten your possibly heavy day.  I pray everyone has a blessed week!

Kathy

There Doesn’t Have to be a Difference. It’s a Choice.


When you get remarried there is so much that goes into the mix of merging two different families together.  In my case, our children were practically grown and God blessed us with a smooth transition (for the most part).

One relationship particular that I want to share with everyone is about Emory and Jayden.  When Emory came into my life Jayden (my granddaughter) was only 14 months old.  She wasn’t sure of this big man with a deep and authoritative voice and didn’t really want that much to do with him.  We both knew it would take some time for her to become comfortable around him and didn’t put too much emphasis on it really.

At one point when she really started talking the question came up about what to call him.  I definitely was nervous about even having this conversation.  I knew I wanted him to feel the same way about her as I did, but at the same time I couldn’t force this relationship.  So we were talking about it and Emory told me that he wanted her to call him “Papa”.  I was absolutely elated!  Now we just had to tell my daughter Kristin and see how she felt about it.  The conversation went over well and Jayden has called him Papa ever since.

Over time, I have watched Emory totally fall in love with Jayden.  Her birthday was May 4th and she turned 4.  Well Jayden told us she wanted a swing for her birthday.  A neighbor of ours had an old one that needed some work and Emory spent over 4 hours sanding and painting that swing pink and white.  What an incredible sight to watch this man labor out in the boiling sun to make his granddaughter happy.

  He helped me decorate the entire living room in balloons and banners.  We went outside and decorated our fence with balloons so when she topped the hill of the dirt road, she could see the balloons flying everywhere. Emory never said one word about all the “trouble” we spent preparing for her party.  He actually even ordered her princess cake and had them put a tiara and wand on the cake. (And all the women said “awwwww”).

After she arrived, everyone was eating and Jayden had not seen her swing yet.  I watched him walk over to her and bend down to whisper in her ear.  She jumped in his arms and gave him a big hug and they quietly went out the front door.  He was taking her to that swing.  I knew this was going to be a special moment and waited about 30 minutes or so before I joined them. As I turned the corner, you could hear her talking to him and he looked up and just gave me a smile.

Are they related?  Yes.  Jayden is Emory’s granddaughter and no one else would ever be able to tell him and especially her differently.  She genuinely loves him and it’s a love that was created by God.  It doesn’t matter to either one of them that they may not technically be blood related and all Jayden knows is that Emory has been in her life since she can remember.

I’m thankful that Emory loves Jayden the way he does and now that Dakotah (my other granddaughter) is here, she will also get to know him as “Papa” as she gets older.

I am not oblivious to the fact that when you mix families you have problems as our family has had its share but this post is not about all the problems that come with mixing families.

God expects us (humans) to love each other just this way.  We may not all technically be related by our standards, but we are all God’s children just the same.  Imagine the stress in my family’s life if Emory had decided not to love her the way he does.  I know it happens all around us everyday because I’ve seen it.

Loving another person with a true heart is a good choice to make in your life.  It has the potential to make a difference in your life and the life of the person you choose to love.

 

Passing on the Humbling Inspirational Blogger Award!


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I am very honored to accept this award from My Life Uncut….Almost.  Anne Sikes has many inspirational post herself and are a joy to read!  Check it out to be continually inspired.

Here are the requirements for this award, if you choose to participate:

1. Display the award logo somewhere on the blog.

2. Link back to the blog of the person who nominated you.

3. State seven things about yourself.

4. Nominate 15 other bloggers for the award and provide links to their blogs.

5. Notify those bloggers that they have been nominated and of the award’s requirements.

7 things about me:

1.  I have been crocheting since I was 12 years old.  A teacher in the 7th grade taught me how and I have loved it ever since.  Now I’m actually old enough to be crocheting in public without the weird stares.

2.  I found the absolute love of my life almost 3 years now and finally know what true love feels like!  A blessing sent straight tome from God.  (If you’ve read any of my blogs then it may not be too much of a surprise but it’s just too good not to share!)

3.  I work for a non-profit Christian ministry where I teach abstinence and healthy relationships to young people.  (Boy was this a surprise to me when God called me to do this!  He uses those who think they are the most unqualified doesn’t He?)

4.  Lay’s plain potato chips are my absolute weakness!  I can’t even buy any to have in the house or I would eat the whole darn bag!

5.  I am such a girly girl and have to make sure that my hair and make up are to perfection before I walk out the house.  Many a times my husband sits patiently quoting the song, “Waiting on a Woman” by Brad Paisley.

6.  I will be graduating from Auburn University in the spring of 2013 which is a life long dream coming true because people had actually told me I wasn’t smart enough to go to college.  (Ha! Ha! on them right?)

7. I think music is the end all be all!  Any type of music and I listen to it all.  Music touches my heart and soul like nothing else and is hard to describe how it soothes me in my crazy moments of life.  You know which ones I’m talking about.  You have them too!

 

Now I am supposed to select other blogs that I feel are inspiring so here it goes:

1.  My first choice is Even A Girl Like Me  I have found all of Joy’s posts truly inspiring and could only hope to have a friend as good as her one day.  She truly is a good friend to Elliot and has a good spirit.

2.  Another good read is Courage To Adventure Coaching.   Sue has encouraging words for everyone and does a fabulous job of working with cancer patients.

3. Covered in Pink is a great blog about a young woman discovering herself and what God has called her to do!  She has great courage and inspirational reads.

4. Karen has beautiful pictures on her blog!  Go check them out at 365 + ks ballou

5. Mom Meets Blog is truly a great blog to read.  Many funny stories about real life.

6.  This is the last one I’m going to post tonight and probably one of my favorite blogs to read.  Lucky Leo’s stories have a free spirit that most women want but never have the courage to go for.  Mary Ann has an edgy feel and you can live vicariously through her blog!

 

I know I’m supposed to name 15 and maybe I will announce the rest at a later date, but for now this is what I’ve got!  I thank Anne very much for the nomination and feel honored that she chose me.  I pray everyone gets everything they’ve ever wanted in life but remember it may take lots of hard work.  Persevere!  God will bless you!

 

Kathy

 

Even A Small Amount Can See You Through


I’ve always had hope in my heart.  Like many others, I’ve had a dark season in my life.  You know what I’m talking about.  You feel helpless, out of control and just down right depressed about it all.  For some the season may only be days or months but for me it was years.  Although I wanted to several times, I never gave up hope.  Frankly, it was the only thing keeping me going.

I’m not blaming anyone else for my situation.  I have always known (at least intellectually) that I am in control of my destiny but sometimes having children and wanting a “family to work” seems to take precedence over ones own thoughts and feelings and thus created a stronghold on my life that I still have not fully recovered from.

For 18 years I tried to keep a marriage going because of hope.  I hoped one day I would be enough and that I could have a loving relationship.  I hoped he would see that family is more important than wealth and power.  During this time hope became my best friend because it was all I had. 

Once the marriage was over and my new life began, I hoped that my children would understand why their parents divorced and the truth would be seen.  I hoped they wouldn’t believe the lie that I didn’t love them anymore.  This was a point in my life that I desperately held on to hope.

My relationship with my children has been like a roller coaster ride with too many dips to count.  With no hope in my life I probably would have ended it all a long time ago. I realize death is a terrible thing for anyone to experience, but I think having living children that reject you ranks high on the list of sorrows too.  I am their mother though and mothers shouldn’t ever lose hope for their children.

God has placed a desire in my heart that no one else has ever been able to take away from me.  He gave me a true gift when He gave me hope.  It has allowed me to open my heart to the love of a wonderful man and finally experience an authentic relationship.  Hope has given me back my daughter and completely restored my relationship with her.  Now I share my life with my daughter two beautiful granddaughters.

I know my hope and faith in God will soften the hearts of my two boys and they will realize that no matter what happened in the past, it doesn’t have to set the course for our future.

What is your true gift from God? 

 

Images courtesy of Google images

 

These Shoes Saved the Day!


Whew…..another semester down and 3 more to go!

I thought I would share a funny story about what I did yesterday now that I have time to breathe after such a brutal week of 2 major projects, 2 tests, and 2 essays.

So yesterday morning I had an 8am final that I knew was going to be pretty tough and I had studied the night before as much as my brain would allow. I get up on time and get ready for school and although I usually eat breakfast, this week has been stressful and I haven’t been hungry.  My poor husband had fixed me pancakes and I tried but nope….couldn’t do it.  Thanks goodness he loves me anyway. 🙂

Emory walks me to the truck and I’m headed to take the final.  Keep in mind that I live 35 minutes from campus.  I left at 7:10am and get half way to school when I look down at my feet.  Guess what?  I have NO shoes on!  What in the world am I going to do?  It’s too late to turn around because I’d never get there on time!  Who does this?  Who forgets to put their shoes on?  My husband, I’ve got to call my husband!  Where’s the phone!  I can’t find my cell phone!  Oh wait…it’s in my lap.  Okay, Okay….I can do this!  I’ll get him to bring the shoes!  Yea that’s it!  By this time I look at the clock it’s 7:30.  Since he is a State Trooper and was working do you think this calls for blue lights?  Yes, of course it does!  (In my dreams because that would be breaking the law!)

There’s no way even if I do get him on the phone there would be time for him to bring me shoes.  Did I happen to mention that I live in the COUNTRY and the only thing I would pass is a CVS pharmacy?  I’m still calling him because at this point I’m needing some moral support right?  As we are talking this out, I look over and what do I see?  Could it be?  Yes!  Yes!  There’s a pair of heels in the floor board!  Shouts of thank you go out to the Lord!  Once again He planned for my careless brain!  As I said my goodbye to hubby, I could still hear him laughing at me.

I thought I would share some reactions from the people who love me.

  • My sister tells me, “Well you are from the country.”  My response was, “What would I have done had I not had those heels, gone barefoot?”  (Don’t put it past me and my jeans were long enough, maybe no one would notice much).
  • My sister-in-law said, “That’s worse than wearing two different color shoes to work.” I told her “Thanks you’ve made me feel SOOOO much better.”
  • My friend Christina says, “That’s worse than a naked dream come true but a REAL woman has a pair of heels handy.” I said to Christina, ” I am a REAL woman but really a woman who takes her shoes off in the car and doesn’t clean it out.”

It takes me a good 10-15 minutes after parking to get to the classroom because we (students) have to park in the back 40 of the campus!  I strut my stuff walking to that classroom.  There’s just something about slipping on a pair of heels that your personality changes (at least for me) and after this fiasco of a morning, I needed to feel in charge!  I got a few stares but who cares?  At least I was looking good, which is more than I can say about many of the college girls I see (but that’s another post).

I took my test and pranced out the door in my Ferragamo shoes!   

Living this life of freedom allows me to tell these silly stories where in the past I would’ve never even dared to tell.  I’m glad that I’ve come to a place where I can finally laugh at myself.  It sure makes it more fun!